This weekend, I was in Kansas City for my grandfather’s memorial service. I packed a black Zara dress because it was the only one in my closet that fit. But when I put it on, it wouldn’t zip. I sat on the edge of the hotel tub and cried.
All I could think was, “How insecure. How shallow. I’m here to celebrate the life of a truly wonderful man, and I’m crying about my weight.” It was a real low moment. But one I’m sure many of you can relate to.
Since graduating law school, I’ve gained a significant amount of weight. Inactivity. A lack of direction. Being in a relationship where both parties like to go out to eat. The plummeting metabolism of a 35-year-old. There are so many factors at play.
I do not feel good about my body right now. I try to stay positive, to not obsess about my tag size or the scale. But I know I’m not in good shape, and being unable to zip my jeans confirms that. Somehow, knowing that the way I currently feel about my body is fixable makes it worse.
Like many women, I loathe the gym. It’s intimidating. It takes so long to see results. I’m not naturally athletic. I struggle to maintain discipline and motivation. I wonder how I can be successful at so many things, but for some reason, not this.
I can’t be the only one who buys the gym membership and never goes. Who hits it hard for a week or two and then stops. The only one who buys new workout attire and then wears it to the grocery store instead. Who wants to get in shape and feel good about my body, but doesn’t want to chase the size I used to be or am “supposed” to be.
I know I’m not alone (even though it sometimes feels like it), and that got me thinking.
What if we did it together? What if we got a crowd of strong, empowered women and motivated each other in a positive way? What if we created a group that wasn’t about thigh gaps or thinspo or #abgoals, but about being our best selves?
Welcome to Friday Fit Club. A place where we can share our successes and our struggles with women who understand. Whether you have a routine that works for you or you need a little boost, I hope you’ll join us. We all want to feel good about our bodies, and we can support each other through the external and the internal.
So how will this work?
If you worked out today, whether it was P90x or a brisk walk on The Mall, tag your social post #fridayfitclub. If you want to share your favorite workout tips, meal-prep advice, or motivating song, tag us. Not feeling it today, and need a boost? Tag us. Looking for a new gym or a great class? Tag us.
Over time we’ll figure out how to use this club to its best advantage. The goal is community, accountability, and support. Every Friday they’ll be a new post. We’ll have Instagram challenges and Facebook discussions, and we’ll stick together even when it’s hard. So if you’ve been looking for a reason to head back to the gym or want to share your wisdom with your fellow readers, come join us on Instagram and Facebook. Don’t wait for the New Year to begin, we can start together.